Musical Therapy: 10 Songs About Ghosting That Are Relatable AF

I still remember the first time I got ghosted. I was in college texting a guy I met online. We texted for months, until one day he suddenly vanished. From getting good morning texts to being left in complete silence. I’m not going to lie to you, the pain and frustration I felt were immense. I just couldn’t understand what had happened. Of course, I tried reaching out, but I simply got ghosted a bit more. In those tough moments what really helped me cope with the heartbreak was music. There is something healing about finding a song that perfectly matches your feelings. It has a unique power to articulate everything we are feeling into words. So, if you are going through a rough time since you got ghosted, I’ve got you. Check out these great songs about ghosting.

Got ghosted? Some musical therapy will help 

From DMs to Silence: What Is Ghosting?

If you don’t know what ghosting is, then consider yourself lucky. According to Psychology Today, ghosting is the act of abruptly ending all communication with someone without giving them any explanation. It’s a phenomenon that is becoming more and more common in today’s age, as it’s quite easy to ghost someone through social media, dating apps, and texts. Usually, the person who gets ghosted is left feeling confused, hurt, and wondering what went wrong. It sucks quite a lot. Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist famous for her relationship advice on social media, says that ghosting can cause a lot of emotional pain. It makes people doubt themselves and feel anxious about future relationships. Not only that, but you get left without any closure.

Ghosting is the silent killer of modern dating

Why Do People Ghost?

People ghost for a variety of different reasons. However, I don’t believe there is a good enough reason to hurt someone. But many people share that they ghost other people because they want to avoid any awkward conversations, they lose interest, they feel overwhelmed by the relationship, or they are emotionally immature. But no matter the reason why you got ghosted, it’s simply an unpleasant experience. The sadness and disappointment you feel when you keep checking your phone, yet the person you want is ghosting you, is heartbreaking.

Ghosting is the ultimate disappearing act

How To Respond When Someone is Ghosting You

If you think you are being ghosted, then it’s important that you handle the situation with self-respect and clarity. Relationship expert and social media influencer Matthew Hussey advises to first give the person some space. You never know, they might be dealing with their own issues. After a reasonable time, you can send them a brief, calm message that acknowledges the silence that is happening between you. Text something along the lines of: “Hey, haven’t heard from you in a while. I hope everything is okay. I’m here if you want to talk. If you’re not interested anymore, that is also okay, just let me know.” This is a mature approach that shows both respect for yourself and the other person.

If they decide to continue to ghost you, then it’s time to simply accept the situation. I know it’s easier said than done, but you need to focus on yourself and move forward. Try not to dwell on self-doubt and blame. Instead, do things that bring you joy and surround yourself with people you love. Remember, ghosting is always more reflective of the ghoster’s issues than your own worth. So, keep your head high, and Ariana Grande says, “Thank you, next.” You need to focus on anxiety relief and more positive affirmations, rather than dwelling.

Take a deep breath and move on

The Best Songs About Ghosting

If you’ve been ghosted, I feel you. It is not a fun experience. I know the feeling all too well – the confusion, the hurt, the anger, and allll that endless overthinking. What really helped me get through this time was therapy. Well, that some must-read books, and mostly music. Music itself is a powerful form of therapy. And it’s one that is always available and free. It has the amazing ability to resonate with our feelings and offer us understanding and comfort, right when we need it the most. So, if you’ve been struggling to deal with the pain of being ghosted. Here are some of my favorite songs about ghosting that really helped me get through that terrible time in my life.

Music heals where words fail

“Big God” by Florence + The Machine

“Big God” was released in 2018 and deals with the emptiness that a person feels after someone disappears from their life. Florence Welch sings, “You need a big god, big enough to fill you up,” which perfectly captures the sense of loss and longing that comes with ghosting.

“Ghost” by Katy Petty

From her 2013 album Prism, Katy Perry’s “Ghost” talks about the sudden end of a relationship, aka kind of getting ghosted. The lyrics “And now you’re just a ghost, when I need you the most” and “You sent a text, it’s like the wind changed your mind” perfectly illustrate the abruptness and confusion of ghosting. It fully captures the pain of being left without explanation.

“Everything Is Embarrassing” by Sky Ferreira

Sky Ferreira’s hit from 2012 “Everything Is Embarrassing,” delves deep into unreciprocated feeling and the shame of getting ghosted. Lyrics like “Maybe if you let me be your loves, maybe if you tried then I would not bother” and “Everything and nothing always haunts me” reflect the frustration and lingering doubts that come from getting ghosted.

“Where Were You In The Morning? ” by Shawn Mendes

Released in 2018, Shawn Mendes’ “Where Were You In The Morning?” recounts waking up to find someone gone without an explanation. Sound familiar? Mendes sings, “You said you’d be here when the morning comes,” and “Where were you in the morning, baby? You didn’t leave your number for me.” These lyrics perfectly encapsulate the shock and lack of closure that come with being ghosted.

“Ghostin” by Ariana Grande

Ariana Grande’s “Ghostin” from her 2019 album Thank U, Next looks at the emotional fallout from being ghosted. Lyrics like “He just comes to visit me when I’m dreaming every now and then” and “I know that it breaks your heart when I cry again over him” expose the emotional upheaval and residual presence left by someone who has disappeared.

“Call Me!!!” by Olivia O’Brien

Released in 2019, Olivia O’Brien’s “Call Me!!!,” tackles the frustration of being ghosted. Anyone who has been left hanging will relate with the persistent cry for communication and clarity. These needs are expressed in the lyrics “Why don’t you call me, call me?” and “You know I don’t do well with you gone.”

“How Come U Don’t Call Me Anymore” by Prince

People were getting ghosted even in the 80s. Prince’s 1982 song “How Come U Don’t Call Me Anymore” perfectly depicts the heartache and uncertainty of being ghosted. Lyrics like “All I wanna know, baby, if what we had was good” and “Sometimes it feels like I’m gonna die if you don’t call me, Papa” convey the intense need and confusion felt when someone suddenly distances themselves.

“Ghost” by FRANKIE and Scott Hoying (feat. One Night)

FRANKIE and Scott Hoying’s 2017 single “Ghost” explores the mental anguish of being “ghosted”. Lyrics like “Now you’re just a ghost, haunting me” and “You left without a single word” depict the lingering effects of a sudden disappearance and the unanswered questions it leaves behind.

“Hello” by Adele

The 2015 song “Hello” by Adele explores reaching out to someone who has vanished while you are in search of closure. For people who have been ghosted, lyrics like “Hello from the other side, I must’ve called a thousand times”  are pretty darn relatable

“Hey, Did I Do You Wrong?” by San Cisco

The 2014 song “Hey, Did I Do You Wrong?” by San Cisco investigates the causes of someone’s unexpected absence. Lyrics like “Hey, did I do you wrong? I haven’t heard from you in so long” and “Why don’t you call me? Don’t leave me hanging” reflect the uncertainty and self-doubt that comes with being ghosted.

It’s amazing how music can reach into your hearts and provide us with comfort when no one else can. Getting ghosted sucks, but I do hope these songs about ghosting can help you get through this tough time. Each of these songs is super relatable in their own way. So, let these melodies be your therapy for now, reminding you that you are not alone. Many of us have been where you are now, but it always gets better!

Ghosting may sting now, but it gets better